Ignore the problem…focus on the solution.
The title of this post is obvious as hell. No shiz, thanks for telling me…but you know what? Obviousity (new word I made up) means nada without constant repetition and acting in accordance with “widely accepted truths”.
Reading is good for your brains, spend less than you earn and invest the rest is smart, eating a box of chocolates ain’t the best for your waistline — these things are all obvious, but seldom practiced by the majority of people. These are some of the reasons why first world country trends means we’re becoming fatter, poorer in savings and stupider in general.
Why did I just mention all that? Maybe to placate the inevitable “Well that seems obvious, I don’t know why it needs mention”. The answer, is because sometimes we all need to be reminded of simple truths to reignite good intentions we have allowed to atrophy.
First, you need to ignore the bloody problem…
The way we have been conditioned to think in this day and age (through mass media) is that the problem is the be-all end all, it is the point to be focused upon, it is in vogue to bitch and moan and tell everyone how much things suck.
Whoa is me!!! If I complain to enough people, maybe someone else will join in with me and we can engage in a pity party hug puddle.
Tut tut, pity is the province of those who think the world owes them a living. The world owes you, me and everyone else, nothing.
What is the outcome? You fuck yourself in the ass, that’s what.
The end result of focusing exclusively on the problem will be this — you surround yourself with equally unhappy individuals, the problem is placed on a pedestal before which you all worship and before long it becomes the all consuming thing at the forefront of your mind and you’re not a single step closer to alleviating it.
It’s poisonous and you need to stop it in it’s tracks the minute you become aware of it.
No if’s or buts, if you want to achieve great things in your life, you need to overcome this monumental yet largely invisible problem.
Defeat those mental naysayers. Develop your own personal mind guard.
We moan and bitch because we allow the negative part of our brain to take over, it’s like the little negative devil that sits on your shoulder telling you that you’re no good, or that you’ll never amount to anything, etc.
What you need is your own personal mind guard, a protector shrouded in titanium armour forged in the blood of a thousand Viking men and inscribed with powerful ancient ass kicking Sanscrit from the fourth apocalypse.
The following used to be the conversation I’d have in my head that I’d have with myself, my devil naysayer is called Demon Face and my kick ass protector is called Charlie Sheen:
Demon Face: Jesus Christ, I can’t draw for shit. I’ve been at this for over 2 hours and all I’ve got to show for it is a half assed mess on the screen, oily hand marks on my Cintiq and an ass callus from hell. Why can’t you get your finger out of your puckered asshole and get some real work done?
Charlie Sheen: Because you filthy son-of-a-bitch, this is what the initial stages of artwork look like, and if you don’t like it, you can go sit in the corner and suck on your thumb for a while and cry me a river. If you’d rather stay, shut your mouth and stop your sissy ass whining, or I will curb stomp you, then kick you in the balls.
These days, Demon Face don’t utter much, ’cause he’s in the gutter, puking up blood while Charlie wails on him with a broken champagne bottle.
You must protect your psyche, your drive and your direction because if you don’t, it will be fragile and your resolve will shatter at the slightest of provocations.
It can be the difference between a life squandered and one that is not.
Ignoring the problem is only one half of the equation. Now, you have to think about the solution.
You can’t just empty your mind of problems, it doesn’t work that way. You can’t be not-troubled any more than you can’t be not-hungry…unless you’re dead or delaying the inevitable that it will come back to bite you squarely in the ass.
You must fill the new void.
If you do not focus your mind on something more productive, it will naturally lapse back into negative thought patterns. Nope, you have to pre-occupy your mental gymnastics with how you will tackle the problem, aka The Solution. That is where your focus and energies should be channeled.
So the next time you’re landed with a problem, remember to stop the bitchin’ and start the solvin’.
If you’re keen on seeing how I typically solve problems, check out this prior series of posts:
Keep whippin’ Demon Face’s ass, and I’ll catch you on the flip side.